A couple of our new private Facebook group members, for THE ABUNDANT HEALER: 90 DAYS TO SKYROCKET YOUR CAREER signature program, reported for the initial intake questions…
“I just started my journey as a therapist and I feel I block abundance by not believing I can have it…I would like to learn how to allow myself to receive.”
“Sometimes I feel guilty charging for something I am naturally gifted in.”
And I felt that was SO P0WERFUL and ON POINT when it comes to the MAJOR blocks people have to abundance.
There are A LOT of stories we tell ourselves, about why we can or cannot have something.
And many of them get wrapped up int two things, in my observation…
1. What we think about our own deservedness
2. And what we think other people think about our own deservedness.
And as therapists and healers we have this propensity to get caught up in the idea that “being of service” means we have to sacrifice our quality of life to be “good servants.”
But the problem is, that keeps you small.
It keeps you begging after guilt.
It keeps you bent over shame’s knee.
And I guarantee you, whatever esoteric source of infinite energy and intelligence you believe in, is NOT served best by you begging and bent over anyone’s punitive ideas about right and wrong, good and bad, or what you are and are not deserving of receiving.
If you learn nothing else from this post, remember these three points I would like to DRILL into your brain and heart…
1. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE AND THEIR STORIES, WHETHER THEY ARE FORTUNATE OR UNFORTUNATE!
2. YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE ANYTHING!
3. NO ONE ELSE OWE’S YOU ANYTHING!
…Outside of respect and basic human decency in our social contracts. And if you accept this, you have to accept two more things…
1. YOU ALONE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR CHOICES.
2. OTHER PEOPLE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIRS.
We have built these physical and psychic webs of guilt and shame and obligatory responsibility around social and cultural constructions that have infiltrated our subjective experiences to the point of self sabotage and abandonment.
And so, we are left with a scarcity mindset, because as is within, so is without, and when you waste time scrambling around to prove yourself worthy to people, you leave your home base unguarded, unfortified, and vulnerable to attack.
STOP ASKING FOR PERMISSION TO LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WERE MEANT TO LIVE IT, FROM PEOPLE AND INSTITUTIONS THAT ARE FUCKED UP!
You might love them. You might respect them. You might aspire to acquiring something they have one day. But guess what?
They can also be FUCKED UP.
And fucked up people, places, things, social and cultural mandates will NEVER be able to give you the permission and validation you seek.
Only YOU can do that.
Today’s guided meditation is going to help you do two things.
1. Locate wherever this guilt and shame is residing your body.
2. Kick it out, and replace it with a willingness to receive your BIRTHRIGHT.
I pray I am not alone in my sentiment on this.
Please leave your comments on what comes up for you below. I would love to read it!!!!