Thank you for expressing an interest in Attachment!
I have often heard the question from individuals struggling with attachment wounds, “How do I know my feelings are real? How can I learn to trust my own instincts again?”
I discuss the body as being a conduit of Source energy, of your essential self, or of Spirit. There are four types of spiritual guidance which you can rely on to start trusting yourself again, and those are:
So, first, for today, let’s talk about the body.
The body offers spiritual guidance in that it houses your emotional guidance system. And in my practice, I use the chakra system as a framework for understanding how this might look on any given individual, based on their history and personal journey.
I believe that your emotions are an expression of your energy, and if your energy becomes blocked or split off at any point in time, throughout your childhood or your adulthood, there will be a measure of psychic energy tied up in it, and it will live and take up real space inside your physical body.
Knowing and applying the chakra system just gives you a sense of when and how that energy might have gotten split off and lodged in your unconscious…
But I also think that it’s important not to get dogmatically tied into that framework either.
You don’t need to know how electricity works in order to turn on the light. Or to enjoy illumination.
So, when you are feeling out of sync with the essence of who and what you are, with source energy… the body will let you know.
It will feel tight and constricted.
Your throat will close up.
Your eyes will burn.
It will want to go to sleep because sleep offers a respite from the persistent negative thoughts you’re having which are out of alignment with your source energy.
So, if you feel yourself starting to experience these things your body, I recommend taking a deep long breath and asking yourself, what thoughts or beliefs am I operating under, in this moment, that my body is rejecting as a representative of source energy?
What fear am I operating under, right now, that is causing my spirit to protest the doom and gloom?
So, in a nutshell, How do you know how you feel?
You notice how the body organizes it, and responds to it.
This is of course a reciprocal relationship. You can have painful feeling, like a headache or the flu for example, and this can color you thoughts as well; we are much more likely to be cranky and to predict negative outcomes if our body doesn’t feel good.
And this is primarily because you’re emotional guidance system is telling you that your thoughts are not in alignment with the love light that you are; with the compassionate opinion that your source energy has of everything that you are and everything you have been.
It’s also worth mentioning that you may have unconscious or precognitive notion’s that are compelling you, and tying up your energy in affective or emotional states– like fear or Anxiety or anger— that you are not consciously aware of.
So you get sick or have a panic attack out of “nowhere” but it may also be that you are creating so much internal resistance against source energy that your body has no choice but to scream at you to slow down and listen.
For example, a lot of what motivates us is actually born of fear not desire.
Fear motivates, desire inspires.
So if you want to remain in a relationship because you’re afraid of ending up alone, that is going to cause a significant amount of contrast and resistance within you, because it is not that you desire truly to be with this person, what you desire is to be in a supportive and loving relationship that feels intimate, passionate, honest, and then alignment with your values and your goals..but for whatever reason, you’ve decided it must not be in the cards for you and this person is close enough, so you better cling as tight as you can.
If the relationship exists in a way that requires you to compromise a lot of yourself, and yet you remain in it because you feel you must out of a fear of ending up alone, or because you have some duty to a commitment you made to someone else, and you are honoring that above your soul’s purpose and/or wisdom…you are going to experience a lot of bodily ache, I would argue emotionally and physically.
This is why it is essential to be mindful of loving yourself and Or because of your vanity, or because you are so wrapped up in another person’s needs that you’ve lost touch with your own, or you’re so preoccupied with someone else’s behaviors and wrongdoings, that you have given away all your power, claiming your life and your happiness is entirely the result of someone else’s whims and decisions, then you have in essence cut yourself off from your own body.
You have disowned it and you have disowned the wisdom and the knowledge that it carries for you.
Taking care of yourself physically and emotionally, is a practice, and an art, not just a luxury piled on top of all the things you need to do, because you have a fear of what will happen if you don’t do them.
This is a distortion of what will actually raise your vibration. Anything you do for the sake of doing, will actually create obstacles in your path. If you care for yourself, your ability to access your spiritual guidance will actually lead you towards inspired action, which will always raise your vibration and draw to you, your desired outcomes.
Think about what it’s like to be around someone who is joyful. And to know that the Joy does not depend on how you are feeling. Isn’t it easier to depend on that person? Don’t you have a greater sense of confidence in their capacities? Feel just a little more secure in their care, because they are in so much command of themselves? Don’t you tend to go to that person for advice, and just enjoy being in their presence? Even if it’s just in silence.
OK, so, how do we access the body?
Well, you can meditate to try to set time to create spaciousness.But there are many kinds of meditation. Not all meditations are a good fit for everyone.
It is my belief that individuals with attachment wounds tend to need a little bit more holding and structure, when stepping into the world of meditation. The silence is deafening because more often than not, it either becomes flooded with anxiety, or the space opens up like an abyss and you fall into it. Sometimes, when someone says to you, “You should meditate to get in touch with yourself,” it feels like they’re asking you to cross a deep cavern with a tight rope and no Safetynet.
For today, I’d like to offer you a basic grounding exercise. I invite you to follow along with me in the video. If you do decide to do this with me, I would love it if you would post your pictures in the feed below and what came up for you!
And if you would like to join our private facebook group for more livestreams and giveaways like this, you can join us here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/healingattachmentwounds/
Lastly, we are running a special challenge at the end of the month, called…
5 Days to Ignite Your Love Light
Over the course of this challenge, you will learn…
*How to take the fear out of your desire
*How to identify and release two important types of limiting beliefs
*How to use mindfulness and creativity to practice being in a loving vibration
*How to show up for an ascended love partner
This challenge includes…
*5 Daily live streams and lessons
*5 Daily emails, including a synopsis and daily assignment
*Access to a recap page for any days you might miss
*Exclusive access to a live Q & A on Day 5
*A Guided Soul Journey on Day 5
*Access to the private Facebook group for Healing Attachment Wounds
*A special bonus offer on Day 5, for continuing your journey!
If you are ready to call in a soul-shaking, passionate partnership, from a place of energetic alignment and self-love, in only 5 days…
REGISTER HERE: https://goo.gl/bbDT4E
I hope to see you there!
Briana MacWilliam ATR-BC, LCAT
Licensed and Board Certified Creative Arts Therapist
Author, Educator and Reiki Practitioner