Today, I want to share with you some updates on the most recent course release on attachment.
But before I do that, I just want to say, I am so warmed by all of the engagement and participation in our private Facebook group, around healing attachment wounds (Join here: https://goo.gl/5G6zoa).
When new members join our group, or clients come to me seeking to take my online courses, or have a private consultation, I find that they are typically in one of three phases, searching to land in what I call “the Loving phase.”
And so, I would like to talk more about the 4 phases of loving, on your romantic journey.
To my mind, each phase of the romantic journey is special, and characterized by…
-How we might feel…
-What we might need…
-The nature of our struggles…
-And how we might expect to grow…
Think of it like a stage theory; knowing where you are in each phase of development can help you mitigate your anxiety and have a clearer picture of what to expect, and how to get there…
“There” being in fullest alignment with your most sovereign self and attuned to the love light and heart song that you were BORN to sing!
And let me know in the comments below what phase you think you are in!
We want to know!
THE ROMANTIC JOURNEY
In the wandering phase, you are typically led by compulsion. There is not much reflection on HOW you feel, only THAT you feel and you want to act on your impulses. You tend not to have a clear picture in your head of what a healthy relationship looks like, and so you tend to have the attitude, “I’ll know it when I see it.”
You need to believe you are justified in this and tend to cling to fantasies about what the relationship or your partner could be, versus what it actually is.
You struggle with listening to the little voice inside that keeps telling you it’s unhealthy, but you are not able or unwilling to take action to change your circumstances.
Growth in this phase is typically painful. It usually involves more than one hard lesson learned after the other, before we are willing to step into the phase of the explorer. But some people will remain in this phase their whole lives.
In the exploring phase, you may be feeling raw and a bit wounded from wandering. You are starting to explore and question your feelings, rather than simply acting on them, because you are fearful of getting hurt again. You are now much more intentional with how you respond to your feelings.
You feel an urgent need for answers and/or solutions. You may start to read self help books or seek out counseling and therapy. This provides some relief, but not as much as you want.
You continue to struggle with an underlying sense of yearning and desperation. The feelings just won’t go away, even though you may have gained some insight into them. And continue to actively seek tools and resources.
Growth in this phase revolves around expanding consciousness and building a vocabulary for feeling states and coping skills. Realizing that quick fixes are not the solution.
In the discovery phase, much of the knowledge and research you have done starts to synthesize. You manage to create some spaciousness around your feelings and the yearnings are not so poignant anymore; they are now understood in their proper context. You also are more willing to sit with uncomfortable feelings.
You want to connect with your own body, and delve into a deeper sense of spirituality. You have explored the hard sciences, and this offers some solace, but now you are searching for a deeper sense of meaning for what you’ve experienced.
In this phase, old stuff that you thought you’d processed may resurface, and you may struggle with feelings of failure or thinking you’ve regressed or relapsed.
Growth in this phase revolves around the recognition that old stuff comes up because you are now strong enough to process it with a new level of sophistication, one that fosters in spiritual maturity you seek, in addition to the expansion of consciousness.
In the loving phase, you have come to a place of understanding and forgiveness towards yourself, and towards previous partners. There is a sense of resilience that makes you feel fully sovereign in your mental, emotional, and spiritual body.
At this time, you may want and need to reconnect with people, and possibly a new partner or current partner, on a more authentic and intimate level. Your openness to give and receive love has expanded with increasing self love and acceptance. You feel like It’s time to take off the training wheels and try again.
There may be lingering doubts or fears that this new level of connection could trigger old patterns of relating; however these fears are not debilitating. You feel capable of managing them well enough to move forward.
Growth in this phase revolves around implementing the skills you have learned; including prioritizing self care, maintaining a spiritual practice, creating genuine and authentic space for a respectful and healthy partner in your life, letting go of judgment, and assuming the authority you have to be a co-creator in your relationships.
WANT TO LEARN MORE?
If you find yourself caught in the Wandering, Exploring or Discovering phases of your journey, I have a special offer for you.
My online course on Healing Attachment Wounds with Mindfulness and Creative Arts Therapies, is currently running a special, with the option for a payment plan.
This course offers 7 creative, fun, easy lessons over the course of 7 weeks, and takes you from feeling lost and confused about your romantic relationships, to stepping into your fullest and most sovereign self, without having to talk in circles around your feelings for hours (or even years) on end, with no tangible result.
And it WORKS.
(This course is also worth 6.0 CE contact hours for LCATs in New York state…visit the enrollment page for details.)
ENROLL HERE: https://goo.gl/sNr3N1
A quote from Kim, one of our newest program graduates…
“This program has done for me in 7 weeks what years of self-help books and cognitive therapy couldn’t do.”
Kim struggled with depression and anxiety, as well as falling into roller coaster relationships. Learning about the neural mechanisms of attachment, the role of complicated grief, and using body activating activities and experientials, were Kim’s favorite aspects of the program.
Watch Kim’s interview, here: https://youtu.be/CjhSgcBbciE
Take it from Kim, this program, Healing Attachment Wounds, can help you accomplish this task in 7 easy, FUN lessons that will take you from reacting powerlessly to the circumstances surrounding your love life, to becoming a conscious creator of it, without having to talk in circles around your feelings for hours (or even YEARS) on end.
So make sure you check out the course before this limited time offer expires. You’ll be SO GLAD you did!
ENROLL HERE: https://goo.gl/sNr3N1
Briana MacWilliam ATR-BC, LCAT
Licensed and Board Certified Creative Arts Therapist
Author, Educator and Reiki Practitioner