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Not to mention, INSPIRING LOVE in a partner, rather than demanding, begging, or attempting to earn it from them, which allows you to experience DEVOTION beyond the fear of settling, rather than a suffocating or half-hearted COMMITMENT, .
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And typically, that means understanding both of your unique attachment styles, or “love maps”-your unique way of giving and receiving love. When we DON’T understand each other’s attachment styles, it can lead to confusion, pain, and mixed signals in relationships.
The struggle might look like...
My online coaching program, The Courageous Communicator, is going to hold your hand every step of the way, so you get to embrace that reality, for good.
And believe me, it’s SO worth it!
And I’ve learned that it’s not complicated to learn how to attract stable and emotionally available partners, when you have a deep understanding of how attachment styles work.
Attachment styles and healing attachment wounds is a topic so near and dear to my heart, because I don’t just teach this stuff, I’ve lived it. As a child of divorce, my parents were always on the move, and we lived on the edge of poverty most of the time. I became a high achiever to compensate until my relationship struggles tore down everything I’d accomplished, and I wound up a divorced, single mom.
Then, both my parents and my brother were diagnosed with serious, chronic illnesses. And the new partner I had fallen madly in love with couldn’t prioritize me or stay faithful. When he left, my heart broke anew, and I miscarried what would’ve been my second child.
I decided to dive straight down into my demons, and write a book about attachment and grief. Writing the book emboldened me to shed my shame, and learned how to move from an insecure to a secure attachment style! This led to creating the curriculum for my online courses, such as The Courageous Communicator, and building an online community for support. Much to my delight, both caught fire, and I’ve never looked back!
The Courageous Communicator uses our "HIP" Formula, which guides you through 9 transformational lessons and 5 interactive workshops, to help you fearlessly express your desires, navigate conflicts fairly, and deepen emotional intimacy, whether partnered or single.
Lesson #1:
Three Conflict Styles & How To Recognize Them
Lesson #2:
End Mixed Signals & Avoid Triggers: What To Say Instead
Lesson #3:
From Angry to Adoring: Transform Your Conflict Blueprint
Lesson #4:
Inspire Devotion With Compassionate Communication
Lesson #5:
From Confused to Clear: Find Your Voice & Get Your Needs Met
Lesson #6:
Toxic Communications: How to Spot and Avoid Them
Lesson #7:
Creative Ways to Foster Emotional Safety & Intimacy
Lesson #8:
Achieving Long-Term Compatibility With Healthy Boundaries
Lesson #9:
Making Love Last: Building Your Relationship Love Map
In step 1, students are usually LED BY FEAR, ANGER, AND/OR HELPLESSNESS. If they are single they may be heartbroken from previous relationships, and desperate not to fail again. If they are partnered, they may be at their wits end, and sick of having the same arguments in different iterations, over and over again.
There is usually A NEED FOR CLARITY, and answers as to why their efforts at improving their communication skills haven’t led to improved results in the dating scene, or in a relationship. They STRUGGLE WITH FINGER-POINTING, and recognizing their role in the dynamic.
THE GROWTH CHALLENGE is to become aware of how your attachment styles are affecting the way you communicate in a relationship, understanding that reparative communications in love, are a way of developing resilience, usually after profound challenges and attachment wounding (yours or your partners).
Have you ever struggled with…
WITHIN 6 WEEKS, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO…
Angry, hurt, and frustrated, Kelly had hit a wall. She had been trying to figure out why her relationships always failed, and she felt like she was going crazy. She had tried everything- read books, taken courses, talked to friends, but nothing seemed to work. She was so tired of feeling like she was “broken” because of her attachment style; who could love her if she was so anxious all the time? Then she found The Courageous Communicator course. It was the first time she had ever heard someone talk about communication relevant to insecure attachment styles, and things clicked for her. Within 6 months of taking this course, she was in a serious relationship with a new partner.
“The Courageous Communicator course helped me to see how my past relationships were affecting the way I communicated now. I learned how to take responsibility for my own actions, and how to start communicating in a way that would help me to achieve the kind of relationship I wanted.”
Kelly, 29
In step 2, students are LED BY HUMILITY AND CURIOSITY. If they are in a relationship, they have surrendered their defenses and are willing to open up to listening to their partners without judgment, criticism, or taking personal offense. If they are single, they are ready to let go of a need for outcomes, and allow the dating process to be a fun experiment and exploratory adventure.
In the wake of this ‘surrender’, comes an intensified STRUGGLE WITH UNDERSTANDING YOUR NEEDS, and knowing what they have a “right” to feel and want from the relationship. They WANT AND NEED TO LET GO OF A FEAR OF UNWORTHINESS or feeling “not good enough” while at the same time, “too much.”
THE GROWTH CHALLENGE requires sitting with uncomfortable feelings long enough to honestly identify and express your needs. This includes UNLEARNING old toxic habits of communication and dis-identifying with them as an aspect of your personality. Then comes the task of BUILDING NEW COMMUNICATION SKILLS that foster compassion and reciprocity in love.
Have you ever struggled with…
WITHIN 12 WEEKS, you will BE ABLE TO...
When Janine joined The Courageous Communicator program, she felt sad and guilty about her recent break up, in which her partner accused her of being overly critical and demanding. Through the course, she learned to soften her communication style by confronting her own inner critic, and a fear of losing control and getting hurt. She also realized her demands were often a smoke screen of more vulnerable feelings and needing reassurance, but not knowing how to ask for it. By the end of the course, she was able to communicate her needs in a way that felt less risky, and was able to attract a new partner who was more compatible with her.
“I learned so much about myself through this program. I had no idea that my need for control was really about a need for more connection. I’m so grateful to have found a way of communicating that feels more authentic and less threatening to potential partners.”
Janine, 45
By the time students reach stage three, they are LED BY A SPIRIT OF GENEROSITY AND OPTIMISM. There are feelings of excitement and openness around practicing the new skills they have learned. They are hopeful for experiencing more satisfaction in their love lives, because they feel better equipped and more capable, whether they are partnered,or dating.
They NEED TO TRUST that it is okay to make mistakes, and that time and practice will lead to increasing feelings of devotion and improved communication. They WANT TO SHARE THEIR NEW SKILLS with others, and practice being more emotionally vulnerable; but this time, the goal is to exercise self-advocacy and authenticity, as opposed to being validation-seeking.
THE GROWTH CHALLENGE is learning to ESTABLISH AND COMMUNICATE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES so that both partners feel seen, heard, loved, and accepted for who they are, as they are. This is the cornerstone of practice secure attachment in your relationships, which leads to the kind of stimulating FREEDOM AND SAFETY that allows you to have BOTH PASSION AND SECURITY, in love.
Have you ever struggled with…
WITHIN 18 WEEKS, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO…
Lupita joined the program, she and her husband of seven years were stuck in a “rough patch.” They kept having the same argument in different iterations and couldn’t seem to escape a cycle of triggering each other into their defensive corners. After taking this course, Lupita reported they were most excited by the non-verbal creative arts exercises, which allowed them to get out of their heads and appreciate each other’s creativity, in a fun way that was new and different. By the end of the course, they were a lot more loving and accepting towards each other, and there was a renewed sense of devotion to their relationship.
“I never realized how much my need to be right was costing me, in terms of feeling close to my husband. After taking this course, I feel like we finally have a set of tools that we can use to help us communicate better and connect on a deeper level.”
Lupita, 33
Henry’s wife told him she would leave him if he didn’t learn to open up and communicate about his feelings more often and effectively. But Henry was afraid to look weak, or lose control of his feelings, since he’d spent decades repressing them. In taking this course, Henry learned how to start communicating his needs in a way that felt safe for him. He started to understand the importance of emotional vulnerability, and by the end of the course, he was able to have more open and honest conversations with his wife.
“I feel so much safer communicating my feelings with this program. I’m grateful to have found a way of relating to my wife that feels more real and honest.”
Henry, 39
Clarissa joined the course in the hopes of nurturing a new relationship of three months, with someone she was really excited about. They had just had their first argument, and some old baggage had been triggered. She wanted to make sure she nipped it in the bud before experiencing a repeat performance of past relationship patterns. After taking this course, Clarissa reported that she felt much more confident in her ability to communicate her needs from a place of confidence and inner security, and as a result, her relationship flourished.
“I used to be someone who would just go along with whatever my partner wanted, even if it wasn’t what I wanted. This course has showed me how to stand up for myself, and as a result, my relationship is so much stronger and more fulfilling.”
Clarissa, 28
(Including 3 Guest Expert Presenters)
($450 Value)
Love and intimacy coach, Kyle Benson, will rock your world with a presentation on how to effectively manage conflict in relationships.
Kyle has dedicated his career to helping couples build “intentionally intimate relationships,” and is a researcher and conversation coder, at the Love Lab in Seattle, Washington, at The Gottman Institute.
His work has been featured in dozens of major media channels including Business Insider, U.S. News, The Chicago Tribune, Huffington Post, and more.
Kyle’s presentation shares insights from research on 3,000 plus couples in what makes long term relationships work, and how to mitigate the effects of the “four horsemen” in relationships: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.
This is a bonus presentation you won’t want to miss!
($450 Value)
Guy Shahar is the Co-Founder of The Tantra Institute, and the originator of Tantra Speed Date®. A Level 5 Elite Certified Tantra Educator, he has studied a broad range of modalities including Tantra, BDSM, Orgasmic Meditation, ISTA, Morehouse, Quodoushka and others.
A writer, entrepreneur, former filmmaker, and musician, Guy is attuned not only to his personal journey in being a more interconnected lover, but about how to teach others to do the same.
Through his work with Tantra Speed Date®, he helps to heal the rift between the masculine and feminine, showing singles how to relate to each other in a new and loving way. Over 500 Tantra Speed Date® events have occurred in 30+ cities, including internationally in the UK, The Netherlands and Canada since 2017.
With numerous television appearances as well as features in Playboy, Cosmopolitan, Time Out New York, San Francisco Chronicle, The Sunday Times, and the New Yorker, The Tantra Institute has presented over 2,000 workshops in 30 cities, led by 30 facilitators, serving more than 50,000 students.
His decades of real-world experience, combined with inner work to move through personal trauma, has established him at the forefront of sacred sexuality and intimacy.
Guy speaks, teaches, and coaches in New York and around the world, and has appeared at The Open Center, Dark Odyssey, Burning Man, has taught teacher-training with Charles Muir, and other events and festivals. Guy most enjoys helping singles and couples have more intimacy, connection, and pleasure in their sex and relationships.
($450 Value)
Join Sacha Fossa to discuss The Five Erotic Blueprints™, and how we relate to our partners in the bedroom. Understanding each Erotic Blueprint Type is like getting the secret decoder ring to becoming a sex life superhero and claiming your own satisfaction and fulfillment. If you’ve struggled to connect with your partner on an intimate level, or you just want some direction in spicing things up, this bonus presentation is for you!
Sacha Fossa is a sexual wellness and empowerment coach, educator, and holistic healing arts practitioner. She has an MA in Health, Arts & Sciences, is an Advanced Certified Tantric Educator and a certified Erotic Blueprint Coach™. She also has over 20 certifications in other Healing Arts Modalities. Her passion is to help you create your best sex and love life, partnered or single.
($997 Value)
Once your 4 months of access ends, you will be invited to join a separate private student group on Facebook. This is a community forum where alumni can continue to ask questions, get feedback from me, and participate in the discussion with other community members!
($2,000 Value)
Part of my commitment to holding your hand through this process is being available to answer questions and flesh out ideas and concepts in real time. There is something really special that happens in the live space, and you never know what new insights will be channeled and/or discovered together! This bonus grants you access to 1 livestream per month, hosted on Zoom and inside the private alumni student group.
When was the last time you felt at ease, joyful, optimistic and deeply satisfied with your love life? What I teach in The Courageous Communicator will help you feel more secure and confident in relationships, and experience the kind of satisfying love life you desire!
More than that, it will help you save...
Many communication trainings teach you the skills to healthy communication FOR SECURE PARTNERS, but that often fails with INSECURE partners, because insecure partners experience emotional honesty as THREATENING. Otherwise, you’d probably already be in the relationship of your dreams!
You'll then...
The courageous communicator IS SO UNIQUE, BECAUSE WE APPLY
TO OUR 3-STAGE "HIP" COMMUNICATION FORMULA
The MacWilliam Method™ (TMM) is a service that utilizes a psycho-spiritual approach to applying creative arts interventions, through the framework of attachment theory. TMM is informed by evidence-based practices in attachment and trauma research but is rooted in creative arts interventions as the primary healing modality.
The directives in The Courageous Communicator have been modified for experiential learning, coupled with live support and discussion in private Facebook group forums.
#1 Cognitive Reframing
Raise conscious awareness through cognitive reframing, so you can re-write painful narratives and create an openness to receiving the love you want.
#2 Body Activation
With a blend of guided imagery, basic movement, and sound healing, we gently titrate all that anxious energy stored up in your body to build new neural networks in a healthier framework, using the language of the body and the unconscious.
#3 Arts-Based Experientials
Through creative expression, we externalize the inner world and achieve self-sovereignty by being in dialogue with the Authentic Self.
TRUST
your intuition & feel IN CONTROL when insecurity or a trigger pops up out of nowhere.
SQUASH
“automatic negative thoughts” – before they spiral out of control.
SIT BACK & RELAX
while a potential partner takes the initiative to call you first, and frequently plans your activities together.
UPGRADE
from bending over backwards to please everyone around you, to fortifying your boundaries and knowing when and how to say “no” when you need to.
SPEAK AUTHENTICALLY
& vulnerably to friends, family, and co-workers without them dismissing or invalidating your feelings.
EXPERIENCE
conflicts as opportunities for deepening intimacy and understanding with your love ones of every description.
LET GO
of a fear of not being good enough, so you can finally attract & allow yourself to RECEIVE the gifts of a life that lights you on fiyah!
Juan, wanted to experience more emotional connection with his wife, but his bids for connection were often interpreted as demanding or emotionally manipulative and controlling. After taking this course, Juan was able to understand how he could change his approach in order to create more emotional intimacy with his wife. He noticed her responding to him more positively, and they were able to connect on a deeper level.
“This program has helped me see how my actions were actually pushing my wife away, when all I wanted was to feel closer to her. I’m so grateful to have learned these skills, as they’ve helped us grow closer, and I feel much more appreciated and loved.”
Juan, 41
When Patricia joined the program, she was struggling with anxiety and low self esteem, and really questioning if she should stay or go in her relationship. Her partner seemed to respond negatively to emotional honesty, and always seemed to passive aggressively undermine her personal autonomy, while playing the victim. She wanted to rule out communication issues as a possible reason for the constant tension in the relationship, before she decided to end such a long-standing commitment; she didn’t think she could live with the guilt otherwise. After taking the program, she was absolutely clear that the relationship needed to end, and she was stronger than ever before in firmly communicating her boundaries, and giving herself permission to leave a toxic situation, guilt free.
“I used to think that if I left my relationship, it would be because I had failed. But this program showed me that sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to walk away from a situation that isn’t good for you, regardless of how long you’ve been in it. I’m so grateful to have learned this, as it’s given me the strength to finally leave a toxic situation, and start fresh.”
Patricia, 42
After years of feeling unfulfilled in her relationships, Kate joined The Courageous Communicator program in hopes of finding a new way to communicate her needs, and break a habit of people-pleasing and feeling like a burden. She found the program challenging at first, as it required her to become more aware of her own thoughts and feelings, and consider them as valid and worthy without external approval. However, as she continued to practice the skills she was learning, she started to feel more confident in herself and her ability to communicate her needs without a fear of rejection. By the end of the course, Kate was able to have more fulfilling and satisfying experience of dating, and was actually enjoying being single and practicing her new skills!
“This program has showed me how to communicate my needs in a better way. The step-by-step formulas offer a whole new way of communicating that feels more compassionate and understanding, while also protecting your boundaries. I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to improve their communication skills.”
Kate, 35
What if you could change a lifetime of unhealthy patterns of living and loving, in just 9 weeks time? Or, think of it this way: how many more decades are you willing to lose, doing the same things that don’t work?
Even if you skim over the lectures and the workbooks in the self directed content, the intensive workshops and individual coaching support are powerful enough to start feeling increased attachment security, immediately.
And do you know what the good news is?
Anyone can quickly attract and/or cultivate the relationship of their dreams, with the "HIP" Communication Formula!
(Including 3 Guest Expert Presenters)
Guy Shahar, Originator of Tantra Speed Date®
Sacha Fossa, Sexual Wellness Coach
Financing options are available for inspired individuals that are serious about joining The Courageous Communicator.
We work with the most advanced financing platform that provides loans specifically for coaching programs, so you can quickly and easily secure the funds you need to enroll, stress-free.
Payments are typically as low as $150-$100 per month, no more than your cable bill.
*Only available for US residents.
“This course, it has our our personalities and relationship nailed down to the T. These videos have given me hope that we can break our cycle and keep our family together. Thank you for helping us!”
-Sandra Thacher, 42
“Being able to do something together, rather than just sit in a room and stare at each other, talking about all the ways things were going wrong, was a nice change of pace. And I remembered how I used to make things as a kid, and somehow that just got lost. I would recommend at least giving it a try.”
-David Peterson, 36
“Briana is extremely articulate and skilled at communicating complex ideas in a simplified and easy-to-understand manner. The videos are dense with information; there is no fluff here. I have had to watch the videos a few times to digest the material! My favorite part of the course was learning about the four attachment styles and the very practical advice on what phrases are triggering for a partner, based on attachment style, and how you can anticipate the ways in which they need to grow. I feel like I have learned more from this course than I have from other courses costing three times as much. If you are on the fence, its totally worth it.”
Mei, 31
This course is for you if you feel inspired to...
This course is NOT for you if...
More than that, it’s even probable, once you decide and commit to living nothing less than a next-level life, and committing to the processes that will set you on that path. The good news is, the tools you might need are relatively simple. And the MOST crucial information that you will need on this journey already exists INSIDE YOU.
Negative energy and defensive patterning that keep you stuck in a confusion cycle around attachment styles and defensive communication spirals CAN be transformed and healed so that you can RELAX into the brightest luminescence that is your spirit. It is a process that will allow you to step into a state of being on FIYAH about life, and share that brilliance with a stars-in-their-eyes lover.
And you certainly can’t experience radical improvements with the same COMMUNICATION SKILLS and MINDSET PATTERNS you’ve always had.
Figure out what sparks YOUR fire.
STAY the course… and FIND a tribe that’ll support you every step of the journey.
When Eric joined the program, he had been experiencing escalating conflicts in an on-again-off-again relationship with push-pull dynamics that left him feeling confused and walking on eggshells around his partner. After the program, he was able to identify the exact conflict style he and his partner were caught in, and learned to recognize the two types of toxic communications that had been undermining their ability to repair.
“This course opened my eyes to what was really going on my previous relationship...If only I’d had this info sooner! Briana provides very detailed explanations and really walks you through several hands-on activities, so you can start speaking from the heart, instead of from a defensive position. Trust me, this course — definitely worth checking out!”
Eric, 33
Aashvi struggled with feeling rejected and getting triggered when partners would ask for space, in the past. It always left her feeling overwhelmed and not good enough. After taking this course, she was more self confident and secure in her communications than ever before.
“The best thing about this course, for me, is that it taught me to identify how my fear is making me act in ways that push my partners away, and also see things from their perspective, without getting personally bent out of shape. I also really liked the practical exercises and the guided visualizations. I have already recommended this course to several of my friends.”
Aashvi, 27
Hailey joined the program because she wanted her fairly new relationship to last, but they couldn’t seem to get past petty arguments about things that she felt were simply unimportant. After the program, she’d developed more empathy and patience for her partner and his needs.
“The most helpful thing for me was the chart where we map out our defensive, surface-structure communications, and then try to figure out what the more honest and authentic deep-structure communication might be. It gave me a lot of “ah ha” moments that actually helped me develop more empathy for my partner, when I thought he was just being controlling and manipulative. Now, I am a lot slower to react or jump to conclusions when I feel triggered.“
Hailey, 24
This content is not considered psychotherapy, and it is not covered under insurance, but we anticipate you will experience some psychotherapeutic benefit, in the realms of self help and personal growth.
Important to note: If you are struggling with active psychosis, severe mental illness, self harming behaviors, suicidality, or recent hospitalization, we do not advise consuming this content without the supervision of a licensed, trauma-informed psychotherapist.
This is a program with limited space, and a lot of individualized support, therefore, there are no refunds. When you agree to enter the program you will be charged your first payment, to reserve your spot. So be sure you are committed!
Each week you will have a self-directed lesson that usually takes 1.5 hours to digest. You will also have access to five, 90-minute communication workshops and coaching sessions over the course of 9 weeks (with pay in full bonuses, you may attend seven live workshops total). If you attend all sessions, the commitment is about 10.5 intensive hours of live coaching and skill building, plus 14 hours of self-directed lessons.
You will have 4 months of access to the student group on Facebook, and to the self-direct content. The replays of the live workshops will expire within 4 months as well. After that, you will be migrated to the general student group for all online courses, on Facebook, and will no longer have access to the self-directed content and replays.
If you have questions, we invite you to pose them during the live Q&A sessions. After you are migrated to the general student group, you can ask questions inside the private Facebook group where all members of our student community have lifetime access to monthly livestreams and can gain feedback from Briana, and/or her team. You may also contact us at support@brianamacwilliam.com. Please allow up to 48 hours for a response.
At this time, I do not personally offer private coaching, unless you have taken advantage of a VIP bonus offer, or for special exceptions. Please contact support@brianamacwilliam.com for more information.
