What if you knew just the right thing to say to inspire a partner's devotion?

There’s an easier way.

INTRODUCING...

This is a 9-week live, group coaching program including tips, tools and scripts to fearlessly express your needs and navigate conflicts fairly, so you can deepen the intimacy, whether partnered or single.

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“I used to feel so suffocated in my relationships, like I had to be glued to my partner’s side at all times or I would lose him. Now I realize that I don’t have to sacrifice my own needs and wants in order to keep a man in my life. Actually, the opposite is true. The more space I give him, and the more I focus on myself, the stronger our connection becomes.” 

Danica, 29

“Briana MacWilliam is the kind of teacher who gets down to the bone where the blood is hot and running. She will never point to a thing when she can show it to you… She has a combination of grace and grit that make her a fantastic teacher and a fabulous clinician.” 

Alan Pottinger, 44

“The course work helped me tap into my emotions, rather than just my intellectualism, which I struggle with. It also wound up helping me in other areas of my life too…I just started noticing things about myself that I hadn’t known before. After years of therapy, in only 6 months it has helped tremendously.” 

Lenka, 35

What would be like to fearlessly voice your needs, and have a partner pull you close and say, "Thank you for telling me how to support you."

Not to mention, INSPIRING LOVE in a partner, rather than demanding, begging, or attempting to earn it from them, which allows you to experience DEVOTION beyond the fear of settling, rather than a suffocating or half-hearted COMMITMENT, . 

Sounds good, right?

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To experience emotional devotion in relationships, whether its one date, one month, or 10 years, you need to understand how to communicate your own needs from an emotionally authentic place, without coming across as blaming, critical, demanding, or triggering your partner's emotional defenses.

And typically, that means understanding both of your unique attachment styles, or  “love maps”-your unique way of giving and receiving love. When we DON’T understand each other’s attachment styles, it can lead to confusion, pain, and mixed signals in relationships. 

The struggle might look like...

  • Maybe you tried to be more emotionally honest and vulnerablebut it only made things worse and your partner thought you were blaming them for your problems.
  • You let their needs take priority over your own and now you feel like a burden if you need or want something, so your throat closes up when you try to speak.
  • Or maybe in the past, when you did speak up for yourself you were yelled at, abandoned, criticized, or rejected, so now, you wind up frozen, fawning, or tongue-tied when someone asks you what’s wrong.
  • Maybe you want to be a good communicator, and so you’re willing to put the effort in, but then you wind up spending your time harping over every little communication or text message , tracking the response times, dissecting the subtext, strategizing your every word, and falling down an obsessive spiral for days, if you receive an ambiguous response.
  • Or maybe you’re stuck in double troubles , which is feeling anxious about how anxious you are, or depressed about how depressed you are–and worrying that you’re not “healed enough” yet for your existing partner, or a future partner, to really find you lovable.
But fear not—there is hope!

You ARE enough.
You are NOT too much.
You are FULLY deserving.

And there is a reality that exists in which you get to BE your most authentic self, and live your FULLEST life, with a partner who cherishes you, just as you are. I know, because I’ve walked through that fire myself, and found grace on the other side.

My online coaching program, The Courageous Communicator, is going to hold your hand every step of the way, so you get to embrace that reality, for good. 

And believe me, it’s SO worth it!

Why You Should Listen to Me...

As a licensed and board certified creative arts therapist, I've spent years working with adults struggling with insecure attachment styles.

And I’ve learned that it’s not complicated to learn how to attract stable and emotionally available partners, when you have a deep understanding of how attachment styles work.

Attachment styles and healing attachment wounds is a topic so near and dear to my heart, because I don’t just teach this stuff, I’ve lived it.​ As a child of divorce, my parents were always on the move, and we lived on the edge of poverty most of the time. I became a high achiever to compensate until my relationship struggles tore down everything I’d accomplished, and I wound up a divorced, single mom. 

Then, both my parents and my brother were diagnosed with serious, chronic illnesses. And the new partner I had fallen madly in love with couldn’t prioritize me or stay faithful. When he left, my heart broke anew, and I miscarried what would’ve been my second child. 

I decided to dive straight down into my demons, and write a book about attachment and grief. Writing the book emboldened me to shed my shame, and learned how to move from an insecure to a secure attachment style! This led to creating the curriculum for my online courses, such as The Courageous Communicator, and building an online community for support. Much to my delight, both caught fire, and I’ve never looked back!

What students have to say about working with me...

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What you will learn

The Courageous Communicator uses our "HIP" Formula, which guides you through 9 transformational lessons and 5 interactive workshops, to help you fearlessly express your desires, navigate conflicts fairly, and deepen emotional intimacy, whether partnered or single.

heal your conflict blueprint

Lesson #1:
Three Conflict Styles & How To Recognize Them

Lesson #2:
End Mixed Signals & Avoid Triggers: What To Say Instead

Lesson #3:
From Angry to Adoring: Transform Your Conflict Blueprint

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DEVOTION

Lesson #4:
Inspire Devotion With Compassionate Communication

Lesson #5:
From Confused to Clear: Find Your Voice & Get Your Needs Met

Lesson #6:
Toxic Communications: How to Spot and Avoid Them

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Lesson #7:
Creative Ways to Foster Emotional Safety & Intimacy

Lesson #8:
Achieving Long-Term Compatibility With Healthy Boundaries

Lesson #9:
Making Love Last: Building Your Relationship Love Map

  • Led by fear
  • Need for clarity
  • Struggles with blame
  • Growth in awareness

Healing Your Conflict Blueprint

In step 1, students are usually LED BY FEAR, ANGER, AND/OR HELPLESSNESS. If they are single they may be heartbroken from previous relationships, and desperate not to fail again. If they are partnered, they may be at their wits end, and sick of having the same arguments in different iterations, over and over again.  

There is usually  A NEED FOR CLARITY, and answers as to why their efforts at improving their communication skills haven’t led to improved results in the dating scene, or in a relationship. They STRUGGLE WITH FINGER-POINTING,  and recognizing their role in the dynamic. 

THE GROWTH CHALLENGE is to become aware of how your attachment styles are affecting the way you communicate in a relationship, understanding that reparative communications in love, are a way of developing resilience, usually after profound challenges and attachment wounding (yours or your partners).  

The lessons covered in this stage tackle the biggest questions you may have at this point:

LESSON 1.
THREE CONFLICT STYLES AND HOW TO RECOGNIZE THEM
  • Why does my partner always put distance between us?
  • Why can't I stop myself from saying things I don't mean in an argument?
  • How can I stop interpreting every benign request in the negative?
LESSON 2.
END MIXED SIGNALS: DISMISSIVE VS ENMESHED COMMUNICATIONS
  • How can I stop repeating the negative patterns I learned from my parents?
  • Why do I struggle when I had a ''normal'' upbringing?
  • What’s a quick tool for calming myself when upset?
LESSON 3.
FROM ANGRY TO ADORING: TRANSFORM YOUR CONFLICT BLUEPRINT
  • How can I be more supportive than critical?
  • How can I sit with my partner's pain without trying to fix it?
  • How see things differently, when I want to explode or run away?

Have you ever struggled with…

  • PUSH-PULL DYNAMICS with a partner you love to hate and hate to love
  • INCREASING FEELINGS OF ISOLATION or walking on eggshells in partnership
  • ESCALATING CONFLICTS with lots of yelling and hitting below the belt and character assassinations
  • CONFUSED about why a ''normal'' childhood can still lead to insecure relationships
  • BLURTING OUT CRITICISMS when you mean to help
  • DISMISSING a partner's feelings, when you mean to soothe them
  • EXPLOSIVELY responding to benign requests and regretting it later

WITHIN 3 WEEKS, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO…

  • RECOGNIZE which conflict style you have.
  • CREATE AN INVENTORY OF THE TRIGGERS you experience, including activating and deactivating strategies.
  • DIFFUSE YOUR TRIGGERS before they start, and learn to calm yourself in the moment.
  • VALIDATE your own worth and value, while inspiring respect and admiration.
  • DECODE the two most normalized types of dysfunctional communications in relationships.
  • STOP a triggered spiral before it starts, and repair if needed.
  • LOVINGLY assume responsibility for your part in an argument
  • SKILLFULLY navigate to a place of mutual benefit and renewed intimacy

Angry, hurt, and frustrated, Kelly had hit a wall. She had been trying to figure out why her relationships always failed, and she felt like she was going crazy. She had tried everything- read books, taken courses, talked to friends, but nothing seemed to work. She was so tired of feeling like she was “broken” because of her attachment style; who could love her if she was so anxious all the time? Then she found The Courageous Communicator course. It was the first time she had ever heard someone talk about communication relevant to insecure attachment styles, and things clicked for her. Within 6 months of taking this course, she was in a serious relationship with a new partner.

“The Courageous Communicator course helped me to see how my past relationships were affecting the way I communicated now. I learned how to take responsibility for my own actions, and how to start communicating in a way that would help me to achieve the kind of relationship I wanted.”

Kelly, 29

  • Led by humility
  • Need to self-validate
  • Struggles with boundaries
  • Growth in skill building

Inspire Devotion

In step 2, students are LED BY HUMILITY AND CURIOSITY. If they are in a relationship, they have surrendered their defenses and are willing to open up to listening to their partners without judgment, criticism, or taking personal offense. If they are single, they are ready to let go of a need for outcomes, and allow the dating process to be a fun experiment and exploratory adventure.  

In the wake of this ‘surrender’, comes an intensified STRUGGLE WITH UNDERSTANDING YOUR NEEDS, and knowing what they have a “right” to feel and want from the relationship. They WANT AND NEED TO LET GO OF A FEAR OF UNWORTHINESS or feeling “not good enough” while at the same time, “too much.” 

THE GROWTH CHALLENGE requires sitting with uncomfortable feelings long enough to honestly identify and express your needs. This includes UNLEARNING old toxic habits of communication and dis-identifying with them as an aspect of your personality. Then comes the task of BUILDING NEW COMMUNICATION SKILLS that foster compassion and reciprocity in love.

The lessons covered in this stage tackle the biggest questions you may have at this point:

LESSON 4.
inSPIRING DEVOTION WITH COMPASSIONATE COMMUNICATION
  • What words can I use that don't sound defensive?
  • How can I inspire my partner to want to meet my needs?
  • What can I say to support them that won't push them away?
LESSON 5.
FROM CONFUSED TO CLEAR: AN EASY FORMULA TO GET YOUR NEEDS MET
  • How do I know if my needs are authentic, or based in fear?
  • Do I have to be able to meet all my own needs to find love?
  • If I don't need anybody, or they don't need me, what's the point of being in a relationship?
LESSON 6.
TOXIC COMMUNICATIONS: HOW TO SPOT AND AVOID THEM
  • What if emotional honesty only makes things worse?
  • Why does my partner interpret my kind gestures as malicious manipulation?
  • Why does my partner seem to want to undermine my growth and progress?

Have you ever struggled with…

  • TRYING to be nice but its interpreted as manipulation
  • EXPRESSING how you feel, but it's received as demanding or critical
  • WANTING to be generous but feeling afraid of giving your power away
  • ANXIETY resentment and dissatisfaction in love
  • EMOTIONAL CONFUSION around authentic needs and desires
  • POOR boundaries and feelings of being violated or used
  • KIND INTENTIONS always being punished or perceived maliciously
  • GETTING SUCKED IN to endless crisis and conflict, to avoid accountability
  • FEELING UNDERMINED in your progress with gaslighting or passive aggressive tactics

WITHIN 6 WEEKS, you will BE ABLE TO…

  • OFFER your partner support in a way that they will receive it and feel grateful towards you
  • INSPIRE your partners devotion and desire to meet your needs
  • RECOGNIZE and utter the correct words that will melt your partner’s defenses
  • STATE your authentic needs with clarity and confidence
  • MEET your connection needs without becoming increasingly isolated or alone
  • LET GO of conditions of worth and needing to earn love and approval
  • RECOGNIZE a toxic communication for what it is
  • RULE OUT any inciting words or intonation
  • LET GO of what is not yours to control