Attachment in Adulthood
Healing with Mindfulness and Creative Arts Therapies
Are you looking for a soul-shaking, passionate partnership, but struggle to achieve self-confidence in relationships?
Do you want to reconnect with your true self-worth, reignite your life’s passion and purpose, and show up as your most authentic self, in your romantic relationships?
You’re in the right place, my friend!
Maybe you’ve been classified as “sensitive” or empathic or anxious. Or maybe people have called you “cold” or “aloof” or detached. Maybe somewhere along the way you’ve learned to doubt your own feelings. Maybe you have simply settled all your life, tending to those around you. Maybe you feel vague and chameleony about life, uncomfortable with standing out and being seen and heard. Perhaps your environment caused you to wilt and self-forget…
That ends now.
Hi, my name is Briana MacWilliam MPS, ATR-BC, LCAT, and I am a creative arts therapist, author, educator and energy healer, with over 12 years of clinical experience. In my practice (and in my personal experience), attachment theory provides a strong foundation and framework for understanding the dynamics of adult relationships, as well as one’s experience of the “essential self”–what I call your “essential artist.”
I believe it is through our relationships that we experience the greatest opportunities for transformation and spiritual ascension. I approach this as primarily a process of regaining your personal power through an activation of your body and inherent creativity. The goal is to help you step into your life as a creator of it, rather than as a survivor. And once you do so, your relationships will change.
As is within, so is without.
Do you find yourself caught in rollercoaster relationships?
If you always seem to find yourself back in those same old patterns, with partners that…
- Don’t appreciate you, and take your generosity for granted
- Show up with fireworks one day, and then disappear without explanation the next
- Treat you like an intimate partner, but don’t give you any physical intimacy
- Or they only seem to be interested in sex, but exclude you from other aspects of their lives
- Avoid labeling the relationship and make you feel neurotic for needing it
- Behave in a needlessly secretive fashion
- Ignore you for weeks then text “miss you” at 2am
Or maybe your partner is…
- Intrusive and over-controlling
- Monitors every move you make
- Has high demands and never gives you any space
- Takes everything personally, and over analyzes everything you say
- Interprets most situations in the negative
- Presses for too much too fast
- Doesn’t respect your boundaries or a need for space
- Expects you to read their mind, and blows up when you don’t
- Is hot one minute and cold the next
You may unwittingly be caught in a roller coaster relationship fueled by one of three insecure attachment styles. Your attachment style is basically the way in which you learned how to experience and express your love. For individuals with insecure attachment, this may be experienced with a hefty dose of ambivalence about how much closeness and intimacy you really need and want in your partnerships.
The Chemistry of Roller Coaster Relationships
Roller coaster relationships have a significant biochemical and psycho-spiritual impact on your quality of life, and your ability to authentically connect in secure relationships. Re-establishing safety in the body so that you may express your power creatively, is what allows you to trust your feelings again, and access your emotions as a divine guidance system for making discerning decisions in your love life. This is also what allows you to stand strong and sovereign in your most essential and authentic self, attending to what feels true and of the highest vibration, above any mixed signals you may be receiving, or emotional disregulation.
“Briana MacWilliam is the kind of teacher who gets down to the bone where the blood is hot and running. She will never point to a thing when she can show you it…Ms. MacWilliam is a challenger and comforter, a guide and a companion. She knows when to comfort and when to confront and most of all she has the timing of a professional actor. She knows when to drop the important stuff and she drops it on you form her own experiential core. She does not take you anywhere she is not willing to travel herself. She has a combination of grace and grit that make her a fantastic teacher and a fabulous clinician.”
“I am astounded by Briana’s video series on attachment. This comes from someone (albeit a layman) who has read voraciously on the subject for 7 years, now. There is insight and detailed explanations that simply can’t be found anywhere except in her videos…She should have a cable show. The level of clarity provided is beyond anything I’ve seen.”
Creative Arts Therapies Can Help
In my work as a creative arts therapist and energy healer, a combination of attachment theory and psycho-spiritualism fosters a dynamic and heart-centered approach to marrying the mind, body and spirit. This allows you to safely explore and experience your feelings in a creative and playful space, without having to talk in circles for hours on end, accomplishing insight but no real change. Potential treatment directives may include but would not be limited to:
- Art making with a focus on process
- Bodily activation such as focusing on breath or “embodying” your artwork
- Guided visualization exercises
- Personalized spiritual practices
- Writing exercises and keeping a journal
- Energy healing (Reiki)
- Sound healing and chakra balancing
To learn more about creative approaches to working with attachment, check out the free gifts below.
Knowing your attachment style and the style of your partner can unlock a WEALTH of information about how to find and build the kind of PASSIONATE, SUPPORTIVE, and SPIRITUALLY NOURISHING relationship you may be looking for.
For example, which one of these sounds like you?
- ”I don’t like being confined by labels. Whatever me and whoever are up to, is our own business. Labels set you up to fail because they create unrealistic expectations, and that’s not reality.”
- “When my partners out with their friends, I wonder what they’re up to and feel kinda left out. Why wouldn’t I be invited? Why do they have to shut me out of that part of their life like that? If we’re “together,” we should be together!”
- “I give my partner their space, and do my own thing too. It only seems to strengthen our relationship because we really respect our mutual need for independence and private time. When we come together again, we have so much more to share on an intimate level.”
- “We like to hang out together and do everything together. We’re so connected, we finish each other’s sentences. That is, before it goes sour and my partner usually turns into a drama queen, or starts ignoring me for no reason.”
Each of these 4 “attachment styles” (or what I consider to be styles of loving) comes with its own strengths and pitfalls.
Gain valuable insight into how your style of loving could be helping or hindering your relationships, in only 5 questions, when you take this attachment style quiz!
Register for this FREE 60-minute training and walk away an enlightened lover!
After attending this training, you will be able to identify…
- The 4 Attachment styles and how they may be helping or hindering your love life
- 8 Mindful tips for working with insecure attachment
- 1 Experiential exercise using creative arts therapies approaches, to start healing insecure attachment
You will also gain access to an exclusive and limited-time offer on my most popular online course, Healing Attachment Wounds with Mindfulness and Creative Arts Therapies.
“This webinar was a revitalizing 60 minutes, and reminded me about the depths of attunement and understanding that are needed to facilitate true healing. It’s weird how easy it is to forget that! I’ll definitely be revisiting my counseling approach with some clients – finding, in particular, where self-compassion should be prioritized over self-esteem.”